5 Ways To Build Self-Confidence

Are you concerned about what other people think about you? Do you find yourself worrying about what others say about you? While it is natural to seek the approval of others, those who have high self-esteem and are self-confident are able to discount the negative opinions of others and remain assured of their own self-worth.

You can build your self-confidence by keeping these five things in mind the next time you find yourself worried about what someone else believes about you.

1.     Never guess what others might be thinking

You cause yourself much unnecessary suffering when you waste your energy imagining what others think of you. You truly have no idea what anyone else is thinking. You need to stop making assumptions about what others may be thinking. In reality, other people are not thinking about you -they are thinking about themselves and probably worrying what you think of them!

2.     Live your own life

There is no way your life is "supposed" to be lived. Your life is a series of choices and decisions only you can make. Live your own life to the full.  Live boldly with vision, purpose, and commitment. Establish your own life purpose, and live your own life. Meditation and prayer are helpful when making big decisions, and it is wise to seek good counsel, but ultimately, the decisions you make are yours. Only you can live your life, so live it to your fullness and stop comparing your journey to others.

3.     Make your own choices

Your plan for your life is the only plan that matters. Your parents and your family, perhaps your church and your friends, have plans for your life, but those people are mere spectators of your life - the life you get to live every day. Prayerfully seek God’s will for your life and own your decisions to live your best life.

4.     Value your own opinions

Why would you consider someone else's opinions or wishes to be more important than your own? Make your life choices sincerely and deliberately. Own your values and choices. I find the Bible and prayer helpful in establishing values and choices and how they work out in my life.

5.     Choose to associate mostly with positive people who support you

You can't completely avoid negative people - there are probably a few negative people in your extended family, in your church or community, and where you work. However, you can make the choice to limit your exposure to negative people and cultivate friends and acquaintances who have a positive outlook on life, who share many of your essential values, and who value you as a person. You will have the same values and lifestyle of the 5 people closest to you so choose well who is in your everyday world.

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